A few months ago I received a phone call from a client who said, "I have news, are you sitting down? I have good news and great news, which do you want first?" I responded and said, "The great news, of course". He then said, "I quit my job yesterday.”I said, "I thought you had great news?" He says, "That is the good and the great news!" Bewildered and confused, I asked him a few questions regarding his decision. He told me it was a change and I agreed that change can be good, if done with a purpose.
A few weeks later I got another call from him and he was excited to tell me since he had left his job, he had the opportunity to focus on a project that he had always wanted to do. He called it his "side project". Finally, he had the time, freedom and flexibility to dedicate to it. As an entrepreneur, I was excited for him, until I got the next call.
Call #3, was actually a text message in which he urgently wanted to meet with me to talk about a potential job opportunity with another company. He asked if we could grab coffee or dinner to talk about it. During dinner he shared with me about the opportunity but really didn't seem to enthusiastic about it. I asked him several thought provoking questions and then sent him on his way.
The 4th call, was right after a trip he had taken and wanted to share with me another potential opportunity. We met up for lunch and he shared about a potential consulting gig. At this stage, I was confused if the consulting gig was the same as the "side project" gig which it was not. He had learned about the consulting gig while inquiring about his "side project", which was different from the "job opportunity". All of these "gigs" had my brain swirling so I could hardly imagine how he was feeling.
The final time we talked, I called him asking him to meet for coffee. He continued to update me on the status of his gigs when I paused him and asked him, "Have you ever been to Cold Stone Creamery?". He looked at me with a funny expression and said, "Yesssss, why?" I shared with him my thoughts and feelings towards everything he had going on. By taking on so many projects he was not able to truly focus and dedicate the time and energy needed to truly follow through on developing them.I suggested to him that he take the Cold Stone approach and ask himself, "Do I like it? Do I love it? Do I Gotta have it?" In that moment, the room went silent and he looked at me saying, "WOW! I am over complicating things when it could really be that simple."
Many people, like my client get caught up into too many projects. They spread their time, energy and attention on too many things and never fully accomplish any of them. At least not to the capacity the projects deserves. I love the quote that says, "If you try and be everything to everyone, you will soon become nothing to no one."
My challenge for you this week is to think about some areas in your life where you need to ask yourself, "Am I spreading myself too thin? Do I like it? Love it? Gotta have it?" Then remove the clutter so that you can spend your time focusing on what you "Gotta have!".