Patience vs. Action
This is a hard one for me. When I think back to my childhood I can still hear my mom saying, "Be patient". As a kid your parents or other adults in your life often are the people that control the timing associated with your patience. But as an adult, most of us start to discover around age 18, that we are now the ones that are in control of our time.
Even as a 31 year old, patience is something I still struggle with. Typically, I am a person that when I decide to do something, I just do it. I don't think to much about it or wait for others to give me the green light. I trust my instinct or intuition and go for it. If you look at my Strength Finders most would attribute that to the Activator I have in my personality.
At times, the Activator in my personality has definitely led askew. It has caused me to make decisions without fully thinking them through or finding out all of the information. As a result, I have on occasion learned from the unofficial school of "hard knocks". But I also think that because of my decisiveness it has allowed me to achieve some pretty remarkable things (i.e riding my bike 204miles in one day, earning a Mary Kay Career car in 1 month).
Now I am not saying there isn't a time and place for patience because there absolutely is. I think that patience and timing often go hand in hand. John Maxwell nailed it when he talks about the Law of Timing in his book The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership. He says, "When to lead, is as important as what to do and where to go". I have been thinking a lot about this leadership law as I am making my decision of whether I am going back to school or not for my Masters. What school, what program? How much will it cost? When should I start? How will it add value to my career goals? If I left this decision only up to my Activator strength I would be starting school tomorrow knowing that I want a Masters degree but without any of the details of when/how or why.
I guess what I am trying to say is that there is a time for patience and a time for action. Some people get caught up in the waiting game. They think too hard and never take action. While others act to quickly without thinking through their decisions. They are not patient enough.
I believe that each of us needs to have a healthy balance of patience vs action. That balance is different for everyone but there is a healthy amount that we need to discover for ourselves.
My challenge for you this week is to think about a time when you were too patience but also a time when you were not patient enough. How will you learn from those experiences so that next time you can have different results?