
Dear Elliott,
I often feel like an imposter at work, like I don’t truly belong or know what I’m doing. How do I overcome these feelings and build confidence in my abilities?
-The Doubting Professional
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Dear Doubting Professional,
First, let me say this: you are not alone. Imposter syndrome is a common experience, even among the most successful and accomplished individuals. It can feel isolating, but those thoughts of self-doubt are far more universal than you might imagine. Let’s explore how to tackle this together and help you reclaim your confidence.
1. Recognize the Imposter Voice
The first step in overcoming imposter syndrome is to recognize it for what it is: a voice in your head, not the truth. That voice thrives on fear and comparison. When it tells you that you don’t belong or aren’t good enough, acknowledge it, but don’t let it control you. Remind yourself that thoughts are not facts.
2. Reframe Your Narrative
Instead of focusing on what you think you lack, shift your attention to your achievements and strengths. Write down your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Seeing these on paper can be a powerful reminder of your competence and value.
3. Understand That Nobody Knows Everything
The workplace is a constant learning environment. Feeling like you don’t know everything isn’t a flaw; it’s part of being human. Remember, asking questions and seeking input are signs of strength, not weakness. Even the experts were beginners once.
4. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Comparison is the thief of joy. Everyone’s journey is unique, and comparing your behind-the-scenes struggles to someone else’s highlight reel is unfair to you. Focus on your own growth and celebrate your progress instead.
5. Share Your Feelings
Talking to someone you trust about your imposter syndrome can be incredibly freeing. Whether it’s a mentor, a colleague, or a friend, sharing your experiences helps you realize that you’re not alone and opens the door for encouragement and perspective.
6. Focus on Contribution, Not Perfection
You don’t need to be perfect to add value. Shift your mindset from “I need to know everything” to “How can I contribute?” Recognize that your unique perspective, skills, and efforts make a difference, even if you’re still learning.
7. Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself. When you make a mistake or feel uncertain, treat yourself with the same understanding and encouragement you would offer a friend. Self-compassion helps quiet the imposter voice and builds resilience.
8. Celebrate Wins and Growth
Take time to celebrate your achievements, big and small. Recognize moments where you stepped outside your comfort zone, learned something new, or overcame a challenge. These are all signs of your capability and growth.
Doubting Professional, imposter syndrome doesn’t mean you’re not qualified; it means you care deeply about doing well. That care and commitment are assets, not weaknesses. By challenging the imposter voice and focusing on your strengths, you can build confidence and thrive in your role. You’ve got this!
Bark the Norm!
Elliott, Chief Morale Officer at Break the Norm Leadership
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